Before the ‘Fifty Shades of Grey‘ fascination with bondage, I was already intrigued by the topic of being tied down and blindfolded during sex, but since I was a shy and awkward individual, I never really spoke up about my desires with anyone since it was…a ‘dirty’ fetish of mine. Plus, why was I so intrigued by this? Was it the fact that I was being dominated? Having my man ravish me in a moment of intimacy that made my senses alert and awake to every touch? Or was it because I was just curious about it, wanted to try it out and just put a tick next to it on my ‘To Do List’?
In magazines it was everywhere…how to spice up life in the bedroom? There most certainly would be bondage in there, but why?
After having my boyfriend tie me up and blindfold me…I can most definitely say it’s worth it. Just watching him as he tied me up sparked arousal inside me, and it opened up a certain vulnerability that made me crave more. My breasts felt exposed, free for him to fondle lovingly, and once blindfolded I was completely aware of his every touch. For me, I normally don’t like it when I close my eyes for people because I hate surprises, but this was something entirely different. Due to me trusting my boyfriend entirely, I felt very comfortable and safe just laying there, unable to see him or move my arms.
The first thing I realised, was that this allowed him to discover new parts of me that made me feel good. As he kissed down my body I noticed that I was sensitive in certain areas that I didn’t expect, and I certainly wouldn’t have known otherwise because normally I might have stopped him, especially since it was my stomach and I didn’t see it as a kissable part of me. Nor did I even think it would feel remotely satisfying to be kissed there.
I have to point out, also, that I forgot entirely about my body hangups during this intimate foreplay, as I was focussed on him and only him. Admittedly it was a relief to forget all about my uncomfortable views upon him seeing my pudgy tummy or wibbly wobbly thighs and stretch marks, and it was nice to just settle back and enjoy myself. Nice to just feel good, which was easy to do because he made sure to make me feel good.
Teasing, however is something that works very well with being blindfolded I found. You have to remember that he’s probably enjoying himself to high heaven watching you moan and gasp at his touch, and so he might be devilish in his enjoyment and really take his time. It’s so intimate to feel where his kisses and caresses lead, and because you may tense or your breathing may increase, he’ll know exactly what he’s doing to you. One thing that really got me was that I couldn’t kiss him during this, which I love during foreplay and sex because it’s so intimate and gives a chance for eye contact in between. Yet he knew this…and so gave me a surprise kiss when I least expected it, which left me wanting more…the bugger!
I also want to announce how good oral is during this. Having him go down on you whilst you’re tied up is just HOT. There’s no other way to explain the sexual frustration of having your pleasure build up while he’s down there teasing the hell out of your clitoris. Since all the attention is focussed on pleasuring you, you will get satisfied. It’s a guarantee. Even if you don’t reach orgasm, it is still intense and satisfying, because you are getting that much needed clitoral stimulation that is sometimes missed perhaps.
After all this teasing and built up pleasure, it was hot to finally have the blindfold removed and to see my man, horny as hell. Knowing that he enjoyed it too was not only a relief, but a huge fulfillment because it made me feel less selfish about being pleasured. It made me feel that I had also done something for him, despite me just being flat on my back moaning. It was a moment that might have been most intimate of all then, because we were both more than ready for a much needed make out session and to go straight into passionate sex. That’s it; the humongous amount of passion afterwards was almost magical, because it felt like we were almost starved for each other. Needing each other completely, and to urgently touch each other and enjoy ourselves.
What I find most important though, is not only did it feel absolutely satisfying, but I also felt closer to my man afterwards, and more comfortable with the idea of being tied up and blindfolded again. I felt more confident perhaps too, and more willing to ask things of him during sex, because after all…my pleasure is important too, and if I enjoyed it…we are definitely doing it again!
So that is why being tied up and blindfolded is worth it, so the next time you find yourself musing over it, I gently urge you to consider trying it out.