To all the guys out there that skip it, or roll their eyes or even think it’s a chore…GET YOUR ACT TOGETHER. Foreplay is important, and the bottom line is, it feels amazing, and can make sex even more amazing.
You need foreplay to get her in the mood, wet enough for penetration, and feeling loved and aroused. If you just climb on top of her, have sex and then wonder off without so much as a cuddle afterwards, she may feel used and unsatisfied. Try having sex and not having an orgasm, and then think about how you feel. Are you unsatisfied? Wanting more?
Then maybe that’s how a woman feels when she is not receiving some proper loving. Most women cannot orgasm from penetrative sex alone, and this is perfectly normal. Most women, if not all women, love stimulation prior to sex. We love caressing, kissing, fondling, fingering and oral sex. Our orgasms are important too.
You see, sex is for you as a couple. It should never be one-sided or else someone may end up feeling resentful. So, before you drop you trousers and make your desires heard, think about what she may like, what she does like. Maybe it’s true that she loves something you do during sex, but…it could be a heightened experience made more enjoyable if you take the time to fully arouse her.
Also, another point is that sometimes, if she is not well lubricated enough, it is uncomfortable, and sometimes she may be wary during sex that something down there is going to *coughs* rip. Also, it is dangerous if she is not wet enough, because if there is too much friction the condom may come off, and if you do not want to get pregnant…a nightmare may unfurl. If you men are reading this and shaking your heads at this, thinking it all nonsense and that foreplay is a waste of time…shame on you. If you care about your girlfriend, wife etc, then you should care about her pleasure. Take the time to make her feel appreciated, or you may just find yourself not having sex for a long time, or that she becomes unresponsive and unwilling. She may even think about not giving you the pleasure she usually gives you, because she feels like she is getting nothing back.
So to avoid all this, and to enjoy sex completely…foreplay goes a long way. Ask each other what feels good, and what you would both like to try. Communication is key. Spontaneous sex is good too, but foreplay is a must! If you are a woman reading this and want your man to understand why you need a little bit of warming up before sex, educate him. Or if you are a man needing foreplay, tell your spouse why you need it! Whether it’s emotional needs or physical, if you need something to feel good don’t be afraid to make it known, because sex is meant be enjoyable for both of you, not just the man, or just the woman.
Happy foreplay folks!